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Each month, Friends of Caroline will have guest writers submit a blog post.  These topics are selected based on what we believe our followers would like to read about or need more information on.  Should you have a question or suggestion, please email us at info@friendsofcarolinehospice. com.  We’d love to hear from you.

Hospice Denial

Hospice Denial   When Lindsay asked me to write on “Total Pain, “what was the first thing I did?? I denied getting the email for nearly a week! Then I realized I was acting like a normal human being! The pain of writing a blog immediately lessened when I faced the reality of writing and picked a subject that might help others find a way to deal with a difficult advanced chronic medical diagnosis. So what just happened? I accepted the assignment and took control of the blog topic, which empowered me to be myself and yet help others (hopefully!). None of us want to put ourselves nor loved ones in the focus of an end of life condition, however, the majority of us will face this reality. How we approach this reality of an end of life condition may prevent constructively dealing with the associated grief. Here is where none of us want ourselves or family to linger. Or another way to state this painful condition, if grief is well handled, the remaining life can have meaning and value. The problem is that grief of this magnitude is usually difficult to overcome by most individuals alone. This is where the team of Friends of Caroline can help. You don’t have to be alone with the personal emotional destruction of denial and grief. Friends of Caroline can help you find meaning, value, and peace at this critical time of life with empowering information, pain control, social and spiritual support. How?? I keep referring to the “team” at Friends of Caroline, which consist of a medical director, 24/7 nursing availability,...

The Journey from Head to Heart

Grief is the distance between what your head knows, but your heart refuses to believe. Traveling that distance can be one of the greatest challenges you face. Losing someone you love by death, whether it is sudden or after a long illness, is an emotional roller coaster. Many people say to themselves they should get over it, but the truth is when some you love dies, it leaves a hole in your life that takes time and work before you can move forward with your life. Moving forward on your grief journey includes coping with loss. When someone you love dies, your emotions become exaggerated and the grief distracting. Managing grief-inflated emotions and distractions takes time and energy. It can leave you physically exhausted and emotionally drained. Moving forward also includes coping with change. Losing a spouse, child, parent, best friend, or close family member brings change that impacts social and relational networks, personal spirituality, lifestyle, and responsibility. It changes who you are. Friends of Caroline offers support groups and one-on-one meetings that make managing grief easier and more effective. Although the way each person grieves is unique, having someone who listens without judgment and allows you to feel what you feel is empowering and healing. Support groups provide an opportunity for those who grieve to share thoughts and feelings with others who have lost a loved one, who share a common compassion and empathy for one another. It also allows members to share what they have learned from the grief journey with others who can benefit from those lessons. These groups are free and open to the public:...

Hospice…Palliative… what do those words even mean?

As our first topic, I thought it would be nice to start with the basics, or maybe not so basic after all. Most people have no idea what hospice and palliative mean.  I’m going to break it down for you. Hospice-comes for the word “hospitality.”  The use is dated back to medieval times. “Come stay at my house and I’ll take care of you” philosophy for ill-travelers.  Hospice care officially originated in Europe. Now, hospice care has spread and can be anywhere a patient calls home. What does the word mean now?  It means that you or a loved one are no longer seeking active treated to cure and treatment is for the things we can control.  I get calls every day with specific questions about what a patient can do and what can they not do.  The bottom line is that if treatments were given, will this disease go away?  Can I receive breathing treatments?  Yes.  Can I receive radiation?  Yes. Can I go to the eye doctor or dentist?  Yes, and yes! Hospice is free and everyone who meets eligibility can receive care, insured, uninsured, young and mature.  Does your doctor have to recommend hospice?  No, they don’t.  Matter of fact, most doctors are afraid of the word hospice like many of us.  It is taboo.  “If I say hospice then it may make someone die sooner.”  WRONG.  Hospice patients live longer.  WHY?  Because we are treating things we can help with and there is support like when doctors made house calls.  Hospice is a great thing.  What does hospice include?  A complete medical team to include...